Why is it that we love mystery? When it comes to dating, girls and guys both like a little mystery in their "love interest". Shouldn't we just be as upfront, honest, and simple as possible?? The answer is yes--and no.
Let's face it how many of us are interested completely in someone who is at our becan call 24/7?Truth is, we loose interest when we know what he/she is doing and whom they are doing it with all the time. Of course we want our new interest to be honest, but too much info can be too much. I by no means am an expert when it comes to relationships, but I do know this; leave them wondering from time to time.
Someone once told me, that he/she who is the least concerned with the relationship has the "upper hand". This doesn't mean that this person is untrustworthy or a "dirt-bag". It simply means that the person with the upper hand balances the relationship with friends, and their own interests. Of course you should care about the other person's feelings, but don't get too wrapped up, especially in the beginning stages of the relationship.
Be you, and be true, but protect your heart too. Take things sloooow. Get to know each other before you jump into a status relationship.
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Mysteries do keep relationships interesting. And I really appreciate you saying that someone with the upper hand balances the relationship and their own interests. I was struggling with a friend who seemed to not care about our friendship, and now you just convinced me that he's just simply balancing.
Haha you're pretty close to the truth.
Wish I had had this advice long ago. But thanks for your useful insights.
Yes, a "little mystery" helps spice things up a bit.
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