Forget your What if's

Turn your what if's into What nows


We all do it, "What if I wouldn't have said that stupid remark", "What if I was still dating ___, how would things be different", "What if I never find the right guy". My advice to you is forget your what-if's and start living in a "what now" world. In relationships or anywhere else for that matter-- you can't go around wondering and worrying what you say is going to make you less appealing to someone. In relationships you have to be yourself. If you can't be who you are, then you might as well forget it.

For example, if you're a funny person, you should be that funny person around your significant other/date. You should not have to pretend to be something you're not (don't be a poser). If you're not being yourself in a relationship, sooner or later, the true you is going to show through, and the other person may or may not like it. You should be as upfront as possible-- be you!! If you're trying to impress someone for all the wrong reasons, you'll end up having to play this little game for as long as the relationship lasts. (and that could be for a long time.) If someone doesn't like the "true you" then you may as well move on, their loss. If the other person genuinely cares for you, they will love the true you.

Another "what if" question that will wreak havoc on your dating life is: "What if I was still with ___, I'll bet things would be good." No, No, No! Guess what, you're not with ___, so stop wondering what life would be like if you were. Turn this thought into "What now". Think positively. Their is a reason you aren't with that person at this moment in time, and it's for the best.

"What if I never find the right guy?" Honey, if you haven't found him by now, you're probably not going to. Totally kidding! Don't worry about being the old lady with all the cats, you won't be. There is someone out there for you (see The Mythical Mr Right). Hey, he could be right in front of you, but you're too worried about what life would be like with ____. Stop it!

By turning you're what if's into what now's you will begin to let go of all the negative energy that surrounds your relationship world. As soon as you do this, you will begin to see things the way they should be seen, in a new and more refreshing light. I urge you to stop wondering the way things could have been and start thinking of the way things are going to be--from here on out.

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