If you live by any rules then make sure you know this one: "The golden rule is there are no golden rules." Rules, rules, rules, they will make you crazy! Rules don't work, never have, especially in relationships. Remember those rules your mother, older sister, or even grandmother told you? Go ahead and burn them too like you did your "perfect man" checklist. Here are a few for starters: never call a man, never make the first move, don't have sex on the first date, and don't invite a man up to your place.
If you however call I guy after the first date out of desperation, I guarantee he will know this, and be turned off or if you are a control freak who immediately as to know if he is interested in you, then no, you shouldn't call him first. However, if you are calling because you had a truly enjoyable time, and want to tell him so, then go ahead.
Another topic you can't put rules or guidelines on is: sex on the first date. If you are having sex when you are clear and centered on the first date, it can be okay. However, if you are drunk, or having sex ass a manipulation tool and not for a fun exlierating experience, then don't. Men are not stupid they know what you're doing. When it doubt, wait.
Don't get me wrong however, there are times when these rules absolutley do not work. It all depends on how grounded and centered you are. You can break every rule in the book as long as you aren't doing it for all the wrong reasons. In my opinon, you don't need rules, you need truth. Just be honest with who you are, and secure enough to make self expression. Be true to yourself and your partner and you will not need rules!
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I agree. As long as you are safe-do what you do.
Another one that I think is important, especially in a college setting and especially for women, is not rushing into a bf/gf. There are a lot of people in college and in your college town, so instead of trying to find a steady person right away, date lots of people. I know that there is a double standard for women if they are seen with a lot of guys, but again as long as you are "grounded and centered" I think dating more than one person is the way to go.
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