Ever wonder if you have any habits that will send a man running faster than Usan Bolt? Well every guy is different, but I've been friends with enough guys to tell you the following will have him running at lightening speeds...
First off, drop your story. Do not be a man basher. He doesn't want to hear about what a looser your ex was, or how all men are dogs-- he is a man remember. A date is not Mr. Roger's story-telling time to bash every man who has done you wrong. If you want to talk about your crappy ex's then seek your girlfriends for ventilation.
Another bad habit is constantly calling to see where he is, what he's doing, or how he's doing. --Believe me he's fine. I know women have the tendency to call or text a lot, it's in our nature. I know I do, heck I'll text my friends to describe a wacky outfit someone is wearing, because I feel like they should know. Note to self: don't do this with him--at least the calling and checking on him part. Guys are programmed differently than us in case you have figured that out yet.
Next, do not bash yourself. Look, if he didn't find you appealing he wouldn't be dating you, taking you to dinner, or asking you out. Do not talk about your flaws to him it's an instant repellent. More than likely he thinks your a beautiful person inside and out if he's with you. Women have a tendency to be their own worst critic, drop this habit with him and forever!
And then there is the squirmish subject of talking about your future together. Now, if you have been dating the guy for a notable amount of time, it's fine to ask, you need to know (notable: as in years). It's also okay to ask a guy your status (if it's unclear). But long term future plans, such as: Christmas dinner when it's only April, will send a man running faster than you can say marriage. I like the quote, "If you want guarantees in love, then you don't want love." Relax, take your time, have fun with each other, enjoy the company, time will tell what the future holds.
Finally, not listening to him will leave him sprinting as well. When I say listening, I mean truly taking interest in his thoughts, opinions, likes/dislikes. I can grant you this, if you don't appear interested in him, he sure as hell will no longer be interested in you. Hey, we want our men to truly listen to us, we should listen to them too. Don't be a self absorbed chick, if this is the case, then honey you don't need a man, you need a mirror.
1 comment:
oooo guilty. Calling to how he's doing or what he's doing and the bashing yourself thing. I never thought about the "if he didn't find you appealing..."
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